If there’s one thing I learned from my parents growing up is “you never get anywhere if you take the approach that someone has to lose, in order for you to win”. They were trying to tell me that I can’t control the actions of others. I can only control who I am and what I do.
My folks are both gone now, and I’m grateful for all of their words of wisdom. I try my best to live my life with the strength of character that my parents had. They weren’t perfect by any means and neither am I. But when things get rough in my life, as they have this past month, I draw on what my parents taught me and I try to get back on track.
I’d like to share some other words of wisdom from my folks:
- Be the best you can be, instead of trying to be better than someone else.
- When someone treats you poorly, it’s rarely about you – it’s about them.
- Humans have frailties – show compassion when they fall short.
- Never expect more than you are willing to give.
- When you stand up for what is “right” – realize you may be the only one standing.
- Friends come and go. Honor the ones who stick with you to the end.
- There is only one truth.
- Forgive those who hurt you – including yourself.
- Stay clear of folks who bad mouth others because one day you will be the one they are bad mouthing.
- Things are meant to happen for a reason. Remember that at your darkest hours because it’s usually a signal that you need to make a change in your life.
- Don’t feel sorry for yourself – there’s always someone who is worse off than you.
- When you are afraid to take a risk in life, ask yourself “what’s the worst thing that could happen?”
Thanks Mom and Dad for what you have taught me. You have given me the strength and courage when I have needed it the most.
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Your parents were truly wonderful, grounded people that provided your pathway in shaping the strong, important values of your character today.
Your parents offered some excellent wisdom that could benefit anyone who wants to live a happy, fulfilled life. I think their emphasis on compassion is particularly important – we get so wrapped up in our own struggles that we forget that others are fighting their own battles. Thank you for sharing this!